Intshayelelo
Njengokufunda nantoni na entsha, ukuziqhelanisa kwenza kugqibelele.Iintsana azisoloko zilonwabela utshintsho kwindlela yazo yesiqhelo, kwaye yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha kwaye wenze uvavanyo kunye nexesha lempazamo.Zonke iintsana zethu zahlukile, nto leyo eyenza ukuba zombini zimangalisa ngendlela emangalisayo kwaye zixakeke ngendlela engaqondakaliyo ngamanye amaxesha.Ukutshintsha ukusuka ebeleni ukuya kwibhotile kunokuba ngumngeni, kodwa umntwana wakho omncinci ufuna nje inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo.
Ukubhideka kwengono
Into enokulindela ichaza ukubhideka kwengono “njengokubhideka kwengono” ligama elisetyenziswa ukuchaza iintsana eziqhele ukuncanca ezibhotileni kwaye kunzima ukubuyela ebeleni.Basenokukhalazela ubukhulu okanye ukumila okwahlukileyo kwengono kamama.”Umntwana wakho akabhidekanga.Ufumana ibhotile lula ukukhupha ubisi kuyo kunebele.Akuqhelekanga umba, kwaye umntwana wakho uya kufunda ngokukhawuleza indlela yokutshintsha phakathi kwebele kunye nebhotile.
Umntwana Wakho Ukhumbula uMama
Ukuba ubuncancisa kwaye ujonge ukutshintshela kwibhotile, usana lwakho lusenokuphoswa livumba, incasa kunye nokuchukumisa umzimba kaMama xa etyisa.Zama ukusongela ibhotile ngaphezulu okanye ingubo enuka njengoMama.Usenokufumanisa ukuba umntwana wonwabe ngakumbi ukuncancisa ngebhotile xa eziva esondele kuMama wakhe.
Intshayelelo
Njengokufunda nantoni na entsha, ukuziqhelanisa kwenza kugqibelele.Iintsana azisoloko zilonwabela utshintsho kwindlela yazo yesiqhelo, kwaye yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha kwaye wenze uvavanyo kunye nexesha lempazamo.Zonke iintsana zethu zahlukile, nto leyo eyenza ukuba zombini zimangalisa ngendlela emangalisayo kwaye zixakeke ngendlela engaqondakaliyo ngamanye amaxesha.Ukutshintsha ukusuka ebeleni ukuya kwibhotile kunokuba ngumngeni, kodwa umntwana wakho omncinci ufuna nje inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo.
Ukubhideka kwengono
Into enokulindela ichaza ukubhideka kwengono “njengokubhideka kwengono” ligama elisetyenziswa ukuchaza iintsana eziqhele ukuncanca ezibhotileni kwaye kunzima ukubuyela ebeleni.Basenokukhalazela ubukhulu okanye ukumila okwahlukileyo kwengono kamama.”Umntwana wakho akabhidekanga.Ufumana ibhotile lula ukukhupha ubisi kuyo kunebele.Akuqhelekanga umba, kwaye umntwana wakho uya kufunda ngokukhawuleza indlela yokutshintsha phakathi kwebele kunye nebhotile.
Umntwana Wakho Ukhumbula uMama
Ukuba ubuncancisa kwaye ujonge ukutshintshela kwibhotile, usana lwakho lusenokuphoswa livumba, incasa kunye nokuchukumisa umzimba kaMama xa etyisa.Zama ukusongela ibhotile ngaphezulu okanye ingubo enuka njengoMama.Usenokufumanisa ukuba umntwana wonwabe ngakumbi ukuncancisa ngebhotile xa eziva esondele kuMama wakhe.
Zama "ukwazisa umlomo ebhotileni" kunokuba uzame ukusela umntwana
ILacted.org icebisa esi sisombululo silandelayo ukuxhasa utshintsho ukusuka ebeleni ukuya ebhotileni:
Inyathelo loku-1: Yiza nengono (ayifakwanga bhotile) emlonyeni womntwana kwaye uyihlikihle ecaleni kweentsini zomntwana nezidlele zangaphakathi, uvumele usana ukuba luqhelane nemvakalelo kunye nokubumbeka kwengono.Ukuba umntwana akakuthandi oku, zama kwakhona kamva.
Inyathelo 2: Xa umntwana sele eyamkela ingono emlonyeni wakhe, mkhuthaze ukuba afunxe ingono.Faka umnwe wakho kumngxuma wengono ngaphandle kokuncamathela ibhotile uze uhlikihle ingono ngolwimi ngolwimi lomntwana.
Inyathelo lesi-3: Xa umntwana ekhululekile ngamanyathelo amabini okuqala, galela amathontsi obisi kwingono ngaphandle kokuncamathisela ingono ebhotileni.Qala ngokumnika iincindi ezincinci zobisi, uqinisekise ukuba uyayeka xa umntwana ebonisa ukuba wonele.
Sukuzama ukutyhalaKulungile ukuba umntwana wakho uyancwina kwaye umenze abe nesandi esiqhelekileyo sokutya, kodwa ungamnyanzeli ukuba uqala ukukhala kwaye akhwaze ngokuqhankqalaza.Usenokuba udiniwe okanye ukhathazekile kwaye ufuna ukwenza lo msebenzi ngenxa yokuba usokola nokuncancisa okanye ufuna ukubuyela emsebenzini.Konke oku kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo, kwaye awuwedwa.Sincoma ukuba uqale ngokuvumela umntwana ukuba aqengqele ulwimi lwakhe phezu kwebele ukuze aqhelane nemvakalelo.Nje ukuba bazive bekhululekile ngayo, bakhuthaze ukuba bathabathe iisuck ezimbalwa.Kubalulekile ukuvuza la manyathelo amancinci okuqala ukusuka kusana lwakho ngoqinisekiso kunye nethemba.Njengakuyo yonke into malunga nokuba ngumzali, umonde yeyona nkxaso yakho ilungileyo.
Ixesha lokuposa: Apr-12-2022